Name: Jennifer Patiño
Age: 25
Neighborhood: West Lawn
How do you promote sex positivity in Chicago?
Under the pseudonym of Jane Sez, I write a bi-monthly column for Gozamos.com called "Unzipped" which focuses on increasing awareness, inclusiveness, and enjoyment of all the varieties found in human sexuality. Like all good sex, I try to be playful and conscious of safety--which ranges from proper protection from STI's, the importance of establishing consent, and of using products made with body safe materials. Other than that, I write erotic poetry, stand up for my vagina every chance I get, and have mind blowing sex.
What sort of changes would you like to see in Chicago in regards to sex positivity?
I would like to see quite a few things. I'd like to see SB1619 pass in Illinois, which would get rid of abstinence "until marriage" education in order to focus on informing teens about contraception and safe sex. I think pushing marriage on teens is just totally irresponsible. It reinforces the stereotype that if you have sex before marriage, you're damaged goods. Guh! That's so psychologically harmful. I'd also like to see more humane, less discriminatory immigration laws which would make it easier for victims of human trafficking to overcome their fear of the authorities and seek help. And lastly, I'd like to see more education that focuses on establishing consent with partners before sexual encounters. The current misconception is that we need to focus on avoiding becoming victims, which as we all know, has the effect of blaming victims for the actions of their rapists. What we need to do is teach men and women from the time that they are boys and girls how important it is to make sure that we are not coercing our sexual partners--and if we want to dominate a partner it should be done within the constraints of consensual S&M practices.
With regards to the Chicago Police Department, specifically, I'd like to see more efforts to avoid discrediting or blaming the victim. A friend of mine was a victim of sexual battery and after repeated phone calls for aid, the police woman who finally arrived at the scene referred to her as having been "the perfect victim" for not having screamed at her attacker. Seriously??? This kind of shaming behavior from the police has the effect of increasing emotional distress and reducing the likelihood of reporting a similar attack in the future--instead of rewarding the bravery it took to make a report in the first place.
Why do you support SlutWalk Chicago?
I am so super excited to be a part of this movement to educate the masses that it's not okay to continue to blame the victim to get away with rape. Men (and some women) use all kinds of excuses for taking advantage of people and I'm glad we're taking a stand and calling for no more excuses. It doesn't matter what you were wearing, what your sexual history is, what you were drinking--if you said no, or if you were not able to give consent, that's RAPE.Also I'm crocheting a super slutty naked dress to wear to the Slutwalk. You're gonna love it!
Jennifer's Links
"Jane Sez" on Gozamos
Do you want to be SlutWalk Chicago's next Sex Positive Chicagoan? Send us a picture and your answers to these questions!
Age: 25
Neighborhood: West Lawn
How do you promote sex positivity in Chicago?
Under the pseudonym of Jane Sez, I write a bi-monthly column for Gozamos.com called "Unzipped" which focuses on increasing awareness, inclusiveness, and enjoyment of all the varieties found in human sexuality. Like all good sex, I try to be playful and conscious of safety--which ranges from proper protection from STI's, the importance of establishing consent, and of using products made with body safe materials. Other than that, I write erotic poetry, stand up for my vagina every chance I get, and have mind blowing sex.
What sort of changes would you like to see in Chicago in regards to sex positivity?
I would like to see quite a few things. I'd like to see SB1619 pass in Illinois, which would get rid of abstinence "until marriage" education in order to focus on informing teens about contraception and safe sex. I think pushing marriage on teens is just totally irresponsible. It reinforces the stereotype that if you have sex before marriage, you're damaged goods. Guh! That's so psychologically harmful. I'd also like to see more humane, less discriminatory immigration laws which would make it easier for victims of human trafficking to overcome their fear of the authorities and seek help. And lastly, I'd like to see more education that focuses on establishing consent with partners before sexual encounters. The current misconception is that we need to focus on avoiding becoming victims, which as we all know, has the effect of blaming victims for the actions of their rapists. What we need to do is teach men and women from the time that they are boys and girls how important it is to make sure that we are not coercing our sexual partners--and if we want to dominate a partner it should be done within the constraints of consensual S&M practices.
With regards to the Chicago Police Department, specifically, I'd like to see more efforts to avoid discrediting or blaming the victim. A friend of mine was a victim of sexual battery and after repeated phone calls for aid, the police woman who finally arrived at the scene referred to her as having been "the perfect victim" for not having screamed at her attacker. Seriously??? This kind of shaming behavior from the police has the effect of increasing emotional distress and reducing the likelihood of reporting a similar attack in the future--instead of rewarding the bravery it took to make a report in the first place.
Why do you support SlutWalk Chicago?
I am so super excited to be a part of this movement to educate the masses that it's not okay to continue to blame the victim to get away with rape. Men (and some women) use all kinds of excuses for taking advantage of people and I'm glad we're taking a stand and calling for no more excuses. It doesn't matter what you were wearing, what your sexual history is, what you were drinking--if you said no, or if you were not able to give consent, that's RAPE.Also I'm crocheting a super slutty naked dress to wear to the Slutwalk. You're gonna love it!
Jennifer's Links
"Jane Sez" on Gozamos
Do you want to be SlutWalk Chicago's next Sex Positive Chicagoan? Send us a picture and your answers to these questions!
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